Like most, the new year is one of my favorite times to reflect and adjust accordingly.
Last year I resolved to keep record of all the books I read in 2015. I did that, but my competitive side started counting and thinking I should be reading more and it became stressful. I would start a book, it wouldn’t be my thing, and I would be loath to stop reading it because then I wasted days reading something I couldn’t put on my list. I started to rationalize that the 37 I did finish wasn’t a true reflection of the actual 5o or 60 books I started and read parts of, not to mention I had to find time to watch all seasons of Mad Men and Sex and the City in there somewhere, so that lack of time should be factored in somewhere, right?
This year, a friend of mine sent me a list of types of books to read, and I think this will turn out better, challenging me to read outside what I might have naturally chosen while minimizing the pressure to read quickly or get through a certain number of books. My working list is below.
- a book published this year (2015)–Eileen, Ottessa Moshfegh
- one I can finish in a day–Stargirl, Jerry Spinelli
- one I’ve been meaning to read–The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Marie Kondo
- one recommended by a librarian or bookseller–The Snow Child, Eowyn Ivey
- one I should have read in school–Of Mice and Men, John Steinbeck
- one chosen for me–Gilead, Marilynne Robinson
- one banned–The Boy Who Lost His Face, Louis Sachar
- one previously abandoned–Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, Jonathan Safran Foer
- one I own but never read–The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan
- one that intimidates me–Anna Karenina, Leo Tolstoy
- one I’ve already read–Wanderlust, Elizabeth Eaves
If I don’t like any of these, I’m resolving now to toss it and not feel guilty. Any other recommendations welcome.
Onto a topic far less interesting and much more stressful: my teeth, an almost constant pain in my ass in recent months. I got braces again in October in anticipation of jaw surgery. The orthodontist said to expect to be ready for surgery 10-12 months after getting them on, and I sincerely hope he’s right and this shit doesn’t drag out.
Reliving the nightmare of braces as an adult is disheartening, primarily because of the pain I don’t remember feeling the first time around. My teeth have been varying levels of sore for the past three months. I got my wisdom teeth out two months ago, and am now dealing with nerve damage resulting in numbness in my lower lip and chin. That’s ever-so-slowly improving, but it’s been a frustrating process. I have rubber bands pulling my cross bite out, bite turbos keeping my jaw open to allow for that, and eight tongue tamers glued to the backs of my front teeth (google for maximum level of sympathy). The bite turbos make it hard to talk (read: lisp) and also make me grind my teeth in my sleep so hard they squeak, which is kind of scary.
I also just feel ugly. It might all be in my head, but it feels hard to be respected as a medical professional when I’m lisping my way through an explanation and looking like a weird tween. I try to bond with my older pediatric patients by asking them about their braces, and they are never having it. Throw me a bone, teens.
Overall though, it feels good to be started on this jaw-fixing journey. Getting started was an enormous obstacle, mentally and financially, and getting through the worst of this ordeal is a goal for 2016.
What other goals might an introvert troll have? The constant one, to try a little harder, give people a chance, or quickly dismiss them but put myself in a place where I can meet others. To go to uncomfortable events, to talk to strangers. To establish myself further in this place. Not to get to a place where I feel socially desperate, like I did a while back when I seriously considered trying to hang out with my dental hygienist.
Come on 2016, be good to me.